Valentine’s Day is creeping closer. Although I’m single and could easily be all “I hate Valentine’s Day. Or should I say, Singles Awareness Day,” I harbor no ill will towards Valentine’s Day or my current single status.
I am focusing on me, and part of that focus involves my search for my happiness equation, figuring out what makes me most happy. In other words, I am working on realizing what things, what areas not only make me happy, but make me unhappy if their metaphorical tanks are not full. These are definitely part of the equation (in no particular order):
5. Quality time with loved ones
6. Stability/security (this one is not to be confused with predictability. For me, stability/security doesn’t mean predictability; rather, stability/security means being sure of my feelings and a general sureness of where others stand in regards to their emotions. Stability/security is also what I value in terms of my finances).
7. Receiving gifts (And no, receiving gifts is not synonymous with spending money. A gift is something with sentimental meaning; a pretty rock or shell found on a beach could qualify as a gift as long as there is meaning.)
8. Adventure (trying new things, going someplace new, etc)
I value each of the above areas differently, but they are all part of my personal happiness equation. Right now, some of those areas have gaps in them, and those voids have been causing some major unhappiness. So when it comes to my love life, I’d rather concentrate on my own happiness first before getting into a relationship because if I’m not happy with my own life, how will I have a happy relationship with another person? Love yourself first, have a happy life, and you’ll have very little strife. That’s the rhyming motto I’m going with.