“No” is a powerful word. It’s final, determined. A commitment to the decision that you are not going to do something, that you are going to pass. It’s a simple word as well, probably one of the easiest words to say and to comprehend. For many years though, I struggled with saying “no” to people and to situations that were not the best for me. “No” seemed like an offensive word, one that would hurt others. Yet I can now say I finally embrace “no,” and I am glad I incorporate “no” into my life.
It can be the direct “no,” such as having to turn down a job offer because of various factors. Or it can be the silent or implied “no,” that often comes up with dating, especially online dating because if a person has a shirtless pic as one of their photos, then it’s a “no.” Or if they are not familiar with the concepts of paragraphs and basic grammar.
Saying “no” does not reflect negatively on you. If anything, I think saying “no,” is a positive thing. It means you have standards you are not willing to compromise on. More importantly, saying “no” means saying “yes” to making yourself a priority.