I refuse to be a benchwarmer.
I refuse to engage in bench warming behavior as it pertains to my career, my relationships, and my personal life.
In other words, I refuse to hold myself back.
A benchwarmer is someone who holds a spot for someone while that someone is off somewhere. A benchwarmer agrees to be said benchwarmer through a verbal agreement between the benchwarmer and other, second person whereby the other person asks/tells the benchwarmer to “Watch/Hold my seat” while they go off for an indeterminate amount of time, only to return at their convenience.
I used to be a benchwarmer. I didn’t move forward with my career because I thought what would come by moving forward from where I was at in my career would make me lose my seat, make me lose any opportunity whatsoever to have a career or that any move from where I was at in my career wouldn’t end up being a move forward; rather, it would just be a different spot in the same row. I was also a benchwarmer when it came to relationships. I’d meet someone, we’d date, but then they would tell me, either directly or indirectly, that “It’s just not a good time right now (fill in the blank with any number of “reasons” aka excuses).” So, I would enter in a benchwarmer relationship where I would allow myself to hold a spot for this person in my life, believing that they would eventually come back to take their seat next to me. Finally, I would be a benchwarmer when it came to my personal life because I would allow things to remain as they were when it came to my family, my friends, my habits, my hobbies, etc.
Do you know what kind of a life a benchwarmer has? A stagnant one. Just like stagnant water, a benchwarmer can only attract one thing: mosquitoes.
Nothing good comes out of being a benchwarmer. Because when you’re a benchwarmer, all you do is wait, and you end up missing a lot of the action.